Painting with lights, London by night

April 24th, 2006 by foelan

Few days ago after a very long delay, akirnya aku memberanikan diri untuk kembali ke cinta pertamaku, fotografi. Hobiku ini kembali ke 6 tahun yang lalu gara** tiap malam diceramahin betapa exciting dan indahnya fotografi itu sama si om Dwi, akirnya ku ngumpulin uang dan bisa beli canon eos 1N, sebuah prosional film SLR, there I was, fell in love with photography.

Waktu itu digital masih langka dan sangat mahal, dan dengan bangganya aku memulai hobi baruku, kemana mana selalu bawa kameraku yang sebenarnya nggak komfi karena SLR kamera bukanlah barang yang kecil. Aku beli buku, langganan majalah, ikut online comunity (fotografer.net) dan seterusnya, aku belajar few things, and make some good picture, itu terus berlangsung until akir 2002 dimana aku mulai kuliah, jadwal kelas dan kerjaku membuat aku harus abandon hobiku itu, dan untuk tambahan biaya kuliah, aku jual semua kamera dan lensa lensaku, it really was a very hard decition to make.

Untill tahun baru kemaren, setelah aku lulus kuliah, aku pikir aku harus kembali ke hobiku yang lama, akirnya di akir tahun seperti biasa, aku dapet bonus akir tahun and finnaly I manage to get Canon eos 10D dan Sigma 18-50mm f2.8 lens. I was so happy, but aku juga takut sekali memulai, sehingga aku terus tunda untuk kembali bikin foto, kameraku hanya duduk di laci tanpa digunakan hampir 4 bulan, then finnaly few days ago, I braved myself to start all over again.

Aku berangkat dengan kamera, lensa dan tripodku ke Oxford street sekitar jam 5 sore, masih terang banget, dan rencanaku untuk memotret pemandangan malam harus ditunda beberapa jam, akirnya aku mapir ke toko buku Borders buat beli buku yang aku dari kemaren pingin beli sebab aku baca reviewnya bagus banget di  Sunday times a week earlier. Aku pingin beli the Observations by  Jane Harris. Tapi sial, mereka hanya punya di Hardback yang tentunya jauh lebih mahal dari paperback, obviously student miskin kaya aku harus hemat banget untuk survive, so aku ga jadi beli, maybe I will buy from Amazon later. Instead, aku  liat ada sale buku, cuman 99p!! so aku ambil satu buku judulnya Cutting Room by Lousie Welsh, not to bad for 99p, I finished it within 3 days.

Anyway, ini foto pertamaku di Oxford Circus, I try to be abstract, I like this kind of picture because it chalenges our intelegence to be able to apriciate its meaning:

Delapan_3

Oxford Circus, Oxford st.  5 detik at f.19

Coba bikin panning, aku ga pernah coba teknik ini sebelumnya. The idea, is follow the movement of the object, coba bikin objecknya focus sementara the rest bikin image blur, sehingga bisa dirasakan sense of movement.
Sembilan

1/45 at f3.5

Dan ini adalah percobaan pertamaku untuk bikin trail lights, perlu tripod karena shutter harus dibuka selama mungkin, dalam foto ini 20 detik at f22

Tujuh

Di jembatan depan sommerset House, 30 detik at f19

Empat_1

Masih ditempat yang sama 30 detik at f16

Dua

Pintu gerbang Sommerset House  30 detik at f16

Lima

Didalam Sommerset house yang sudah ga ada orang, 20 detik at f22

Enam

And my fovourite image of the night, London by night, it shows what London it’s all about, ada Big ben, House of Parliement dan London’s eye and of course the beautiful river Thames, It reminds me how I could enjoy my last 7 years in London, 30 Detik at f22

Satu

All and all, Im very happy to do things that I love most. It’s like if Im with camera I forget my other life, school, work, relationship. I feel safe and happy when I hold my camera, isn’t that what we call love? If it’s not, then I don’t know what love is, anyway, it’s good to be back.

Kritik dan saran wellcomed.

The Importance of Sex: women in the workforce

April 13th, 2006 by foelan

Sebuah artikel yang  menarik yang menggambarkan betapa pentingnya kontribusi wanita terhadap ekonomi, sadly, artikel ini juga menggaris bawahi betapa minimnya peranan wanita di setiap negara, terutama di Indonesia.

Dimana persentasi tenaga kerja wanita yang sangat tinggi seperti US dan Swedia, kecenderungan  dari negara negara tersebut mempunya fondasi ekomoni yang kuat, wanita karir yang handal, ibu rumahtangga yang sukses sangat kelihatan. Permasalahnya, dibanyak budaya,seperti di Indonesia, orang tua lebih menitik beratkan investasi pendidikan kepada anak laki**nya daripada anak perempuanya dengan memegang teguh mitos bahwa anak laki** akan ebih sukses daripada perempuan, prejudice sperti ini adalah backward-minded, nggak fair, nggak relevant dan perlu dihilangkan karena gender bukan penghalang lagi di era modern seperti ini.

Bukankah wanita bekerja akan memberi dampak sosial yang negative seperti rendahnya angka kelahiran? tidak benar, sebab di negara seperti US dan Swedia, telah terbukti angka kelahiranya lebih tinggi dari negara** penganut kepercayaan "wanita dirumah" seperti Italy dan Jepang.

Potensi ini harus diketahui oleh para wanita sendiri yang sering beranggapan bahwa mereka adalah makluk yang inferior dibanding laki**, dengan kesadaran ini kemauan mereka untuk masuk ke lapangan kerja akan lebih tinggi. Pemerintah juga tak kalah pentingnya untuk mengkapitalisasi hal ini, dengan membuat UU pekerja yang lebih women-friendly, seperti  memberi kemudahan cuti hamil, flexible working hours untuk ibu** yang punya anak, dll.

Masalahnya, dari pengalaman pribadi, mental wanita sendiri yang cenderung menjadi penghalang. Aku punya banyak temen yang sukses dalam bidang akademis dan diteruskan dengan sukses karir mereka karena mereka punya kemauan dan kesenangan tersendiri terhadap apa yang mereka lakukan, bahkan beberapa dari temenku ada yang karirnya melejit dengan cukup cepat. Tapi tidak kurang pula temenku yang punya attitude lama bahwa, home is where women belong to, yang aku rasakan little bit disturbing is, some of them are highly educated dan sangat sukses dibidang study mereka, tapi naluri kewanitaanya berkata lain. kenapa nggak bisa dua** nya aku tanya?  keluarga dan karir? why not?

One of my friend said, "look Wan, setelah aku lulus kuliah nanti, aku akan menikah, stay at home, rilex, have shit loads of children and watch telenovela in my spare time"

I was speechless. So girls, Which type are you?

The importance of sex

Apr 12th 2006
From The Economist print edition

Forget China, India and the internet: economic growth is driven by women

EVEN today in the modern, developed world, surveys show that parents
still prefer to have a boy rather than a girl. One longstanding reason
why boys have been seen as a greater blessing has been that they are
expected to become better economic providers for their parents’ old
age. Yet it is time for parents to think again. Girls may now be a
better investment.

Girls get better grades at school than boys, and in most developed
countries more women than men go to university. Women will thus be
better equipped for the new jobs of the 21st century, in which brains
count a lot more than brawn. In Britain far more women than men are now
training to become doctors. And women are more likely to provide sound
advice on investing their parents’ nest egg: surveys show that women
consistently achieve higher financial returns than men do.

Furthermore, the increase in female employment in the rich world
has been the main driving force of growth in the past couple of
decades. Those women have contributed more to global GDP growth than have either new technology or the new giants, China and India.
Add the value of housework and child-rearing, and women probably
account for just over half of world output. It is true that women still
get paid less and few make it to the top of companies, but, as
prejudice fades over coming years, women will have great scope to boost
their productivity—and incomes.

Governments, too, should embrace the potential of women. Women
complain (rightly) of centuries of exploitation. Yet, to an economist,
women are not exploited enough: they are the world’s most
under-utilised resource; getting more of them into work is part of the
solution to many economic woes, including shrinking populations and
poverty.

 

Some people fret that if more women work rather than mind their children, this will boost GDP
but create negative social externalities, such as a lower birth rate.
Yet developed countries where more women work, such as Sweden and
America, actually have higher birth rates than Japan and Italy, where
women stay at home. Others fear that women’s move into the paid labour
force can come at the expense of children. Yet the evidence for this is
mixed. For instance, a study by Suzanne Bianchi at Maryland University
finds that mothers spent the same time, on average, on childcare in
2003 as in 1965. The increase in work outside the home was offset by
less housework—and less spare time and less sleep.

A woman’s world

What is clear is that in countries such as Japan, Germany and Italy,
which are all troubled by the demographics of shrinking populations,
far fewer women work than in America, let alone Sweden. If female
labour-force participation in these countries rose to American levels,
it would give a helpful boost to these countries’ growth rates.
Likewise, in developing countries where girls are less likely to go to
school than boys, investing in education would deliver huge economic
and social returns. Not only will educated women be more productive,
but they will also bring up better educated and healthier children.
More women in government could also boost economic growth: studies show
that women are more likely to spend money on improving health,
education, infrastructure and poverty and less likely to waste it on
tanks and bombs.It used to be said that women must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily that is not so difficult.

Looking at the asylum issue in retrospect

April 6th, 2006 by foelan


Pemerintah dan media di Indonesia sekarang lagi
sibuk sibuknya memprotes keras kartun presiden SBY yang diterbitkan
sebuah media Australia tentang masalah Papua.


Mereka bilang itu dibawah standard, sampah, tasteless, nggak sensitif
dan lain** yang intinya mengambing hitamkan  media  Australia tersebut.


Saking sibuknya, mereka lupa to see this problem in  the right
perspective. Kalau mau diurut lagi , penerbitan kartunn  di  Australia
itu cuman  pembalasan atas kartun yang di lebih dulu diterbitkan oleh
Rakyat Merdeka, so kenapa kita ga salain media kita sendiri? God knows..

Yang jelas ada pihak yang akan senang karena karena perang kartun ini mengalihkan  atensi publik dari maslah yang sebenarnya, yaitu masalah rakyat Papua! dibawah ini ada dua artikel oleh Todung Mulya Lubis (komnas HAM) dan Jusuf Afandy (CSIS) yang melihat this problem from the correct perspective.

Anyway, whatever people say about those cartoons, I actually enjoy it, both contains  sincere opinion and cricism, only not in words,  nicely put.

Looking at the asylum issue in retrospect               

Todung Mulya Lubis,
Jakarta
The
fuss about the temporary visas granted to 42 Papuans seeking political
asylum in Australia should have stopped by now. Two weeks of wrath is
enough and it is now time for everyone to think clearly about this
matter. The granting of asylum (the Papuans have not received formal
asylum) is quite common in relations between states. International laws
and practices also allow this to take place.

 


During the years following the fall of Sukarno’s administration and the
collapse of the Indonesian Communist Party, asylum was granted
repeatedly. Many Indonesian citizens obtained asylum from various
Eastern European countries and from China. Then the in early 1980s, a
number of Acehnese also went to Scandinavian countries to seek
political asylum.


Obtaining asylum is an inherent right of all humans when facing
state-sanctioned political persecution (Article 14 of the United
Nations’ Universal Declaration of Human Rights).

Political asylum is, indeed, not provided for in any of the articles in
our amended 1945 Constitution. However, Article 28 of the 1999 Human
Rights Law strongly recognizes the right of a citizen to obtain a
political asylum from another country. Therefore obtaining political
asylum is recognized as a legal right.


The question now is whether those applying for political asylum are
subject to political persecution perpetrated by Indonesian government
apparatuses. We must first examine all the available information; if it
is found that the applicants are not political victims or political
fugitives, the government can always send a note of protest.

Here,
however, lies a difference in interpretation that is difficult to
bridge. Usually the final word rests with the country to which a
request for political asylum is submitted. If the Australian
government, through its immigration department, is of the opinion that
there is strong legal reason to believe that these 42 Papuans will face
political persecution in Indonesia, the granting of the visas, with the
possibility of asylum in the future, is justifiable in the light of
international law.


The Indonesian government may feel disappointed and infuriated. The
House of Representatives may be enraged. However, calling for
diplomatic ties to be severed is just grandstanding and will bring no
benefit. The relationship between Indonesia and Australia is one with
its ups and downs, laden with political, economic and cultural burdens.

Like it or
not, Indonesia and Australia have an interdependence. Look at the
balance of trade between the two countries. Our exports and imports are
quite substantial. In 2005, our total exports to Australia were US$2.2
billion, while imports from Australia stood at $2.6 billion. The same
year also saw a significant amount of Australian investment in
Indonesia. Our challenge is how to promote this trade and invite more
Australian investment.


There are many other things to be improved in the relationship between
Indonesia and Australia. The arrival of Australian tourists in
Indonesia, particularly in Bali, for example, greatly contributes to
Indonesia’s tourist sector. Australia is also where many Indonesians
pursue their studies. Clearly, what is at stake is not insignificant
when we allow our diplomatic relations with Australia to worsen.
However,
we certainly must act with greater wisdom to enable prudent political
and economic calculations. We must not allow ourselves to slip. In the
case of East Timor, when the Australian government was believed to have
"stabbed Indonesia in the back", the government was able to keep its
anger in check. The government should now be able to do likewise.


One important question that we must pose is what is really happening in
Papua and what must be done to resolve the problems there. To say that
everything is all right in Papua is tantamount to lying to yourself.
The recent violence in Papua has not only been related to PT Freeport
Indonesia, although the popular demand that locals should also enjoy
part of Freeport’s wealth is not unfounded.

If Papuans demand that Freeport give them a bigger share of revenue,
this must be given due attention. The government must undertake an
audit to ensure that Papuans really enjoy part of their own riches,
because all these years very little of the portion set aside for Papua
from Freeport’s mining operation has reportedly reached Papuans,
especially those living around the mining area. Where have the funds
allocated by Freeport gone? In any case, the rights of Papuans should
not be curtailed or corrupted, either by the political elite in Papua
or in Jakarta.


Injustices in Papua go beyond the Freeport issue. It is not a secret
that resource-rich Papua has been a target of looting on a massive
scale by both businesspeople and the powers that be. It is easy to see
the disappearance of formerly dense jungles in the province.


Papuans seem to have been drugged in such a way that they have become
voiceless, unable to demand that their social and political rights are
honored. The policy of repression enforced in the province gives little
room for democracy, although the whole country is now starting to
practice democracy.


The law on special autonomy for Papua, which is actually quite
broad-based, has yet to be fully exercised because the political elite
are still worried that full exercise of this autonomy will only
reinforce the sentiment of separatism in Papua.


The long history of desire for freedom cannot just be ignored, and
postponing the exercise of autonomy will only strengthen the network of
separatism in the community. This is the dilemma that we must deal
with, especially given the many parties in international political
networks that encourage the secession of Papua from Indonesia.


Here lies the challenge facing us all. The international community has
reiterated that it recognizes the territorial integrity of Indonesia,
as echoed by John Howard, the Australian prime minister. So with that
guarantee, couldn’t we all join forces to build autonomy in Papua in a
spirit of democracy that would kindle hopes for justice? Otherwise we will continue to see groups of Papuans sailing to Australia seeking asylum.

 

The writer is chairman of the founding board of Imparsial, the Indonesian Human Rights Monitor. He can be reached at mulya@cbn.net.i

Indonesia-Australia: A boom and bust relationship?

Jusuf Wanandi, Jakarta

I
want to be blunt, honest and balanced in my view on the problem of the
Papuan asylum seekers. This is what members of the Centre for Strategic
and International Studies (CSIS) stand for.

 


Indonesian-Australian relations have been affected by this problem. Is
Australia to blame for it? In the past I have strongly criticized Prime
Minister John Howard as being a gentleman from a small town in 19th
century England who was unaware and not interested in what was
happening in East Asia, Australia’s strategic environment. That was the
period when he ignored Australia’s relations with East Asia, including
the Association of Southeast Asian Nations (ASEAN).


That has since changed, and now Howard fully understands where the "arc
of instabilities" that can affect Australia is located, namely
Southeast Asia, particularly Indonesia, and the South Pacific. This
awareness has become more pronounced after Sept. 11, 2001, as well as
because of the number of failing states in the South Pacific.


The most important security and strategic issue for Australia now is
the security and well-being of Indonesia, because a chaotic and failing
Indonesia would have the most dramatic impact on Australia’s security
and welfare. That includes an interest in maintaining the unity of
Indonesia, including the security and welfare of Papua as part of
Indonesia.

What
Australia is dreading most is if Papua gets into real trouble and tries
to separate from Indonesia. Australia has enough problems with the weak
state of Papua New Guinea and others to the east of PNG, such as
Vanuatu, Solomon Islands, Fiji and Nauru. The last thing they need is
the big and nearby Indonesia getting into trouble because of Papua. So,
the accusation from many Indonesian quarters that Australia would like
to see Papua separate from Indonesia is just sheer nonsense.


As a democracy, there are NGOs, a few politicians and some in the
Australian media who might think of separation as a possibility and try
to agitate for that objective. But these are small groups of people,
although vocal.


It should also be recognized that the Papuans who asked for asylum have
not been treated well in Indonesia. Our Constitution allows citizens to
ask for asylum if they so choose. Article 28g of the Constitution and
Article 28 of the 1999 Human Rights Law stipulate that anyone has the
right to ask for political asylum from another country.


Australia’s mistake was timing, as Indonesia is undergoing a fervor of
"narrow" nationalism for a number of reasons: the loss of East Timor in
the background, foreign takeovers of national assets after the
financial crisis and the globalization process (as is also happening in
the U.S., France, South Korea and Thailand).


Economic recovery has not been very successful as unemployment remains
high and is still rising, and there is also the fervor of a new
democracy where politicians, civil society and the press are all trying
to assert their newly found power. The last thing Indonesia needs is
another "sensitive" issue on its plate such as this problem of the
Papuan refugees. Australia is also to blame for not trying to clearly
explain its policy of granting the temporary stay permits before it was
officially announced.


This failure to explain has been taken here as arrogant and
insensitive. It was not understood that the policy of giving asylum is
in accordance with the Treaty on Refugees (which Indonesia has not yet
acceded to) that has been incorporated into Australian law. The law
also ensures that immigration officials cannot be influenced or
pressured by the government (federal or state).


The Australian federal government cannot intervene in the investigation
by immigration officers of the Papuans seeking asylum. Depending on
whether or not the case clearly suggests the Papuans face the
possibility of punishment by their own government, or that their safety
and security are at risk, a decision on the asylum request could be
made quickly or slowly.

   In the case of the 43 Papuans, it is very clear, according to Tempo
magazine (April 3-9, 2006), that they have enough reasons to be afraid.
And with all due respect, even if President Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono is
willing to guarantee their safety if they return to Indonesia, there is
no confidence in the implementation of this guarantee.


In conclusion, it can categorically be said that the Australians are
right in their policy on the 43 Papuan asylum seekers. We could argue
about timing or the need for an explanation before the announcement.


This episode should provide all of us with a real lesson and serve as
an eye-opener that this incident could only have been prevented if we
treated our Papuan citizens with respect and empathy, giving them the
chance to run their province according to the Special Autonomy Law,
educating and training their leaders to enable them to do that, and to
wisely use the greater revenue they receive under the Special Autonomy
Law. And most importantly, the rest of the country should show that
Papuans can be trusted.

   The writer is vice chairman of the Board of Trustees of the Centre for Strategic and International Studies (CSIS), Jakarta

Mekarnya Generasi Emas Kedua

March 29th, 2006 by foelan

Arsenal-Juve 2-0? it’s a dream come true for me, kemenangan ini sangat special bukan hanya untuk arsenal ke semifinal Liga champion, tapi sejarah cinta dan kebencianku kebeberapa club di seri A ataupun Premiership.

Here’s brief profile of my football life, aku akan bikin sesingkat-singkatnya. di Premiership aku pendukung berat Arsenal, sudah 8 tahun aku setia pada club ini, naturally aku akan nggak akan suka MU, rival besar Arsenal, tapi ketidaksukaan itu berubah jadi kebencian karena suatu hal, akan diceritakan dibawah mengapa.


Di seri A aku pemuja Inter, my love to this club has blossomed way before I knew Arsenal, kalo ga salah sejak SMP kelas satu, which is 13 years ago, naturally aku juga akan tidak suka dengan rival beratnya, Milan dan Juventus, aku tetep tidak suka Milan sampai sekarang, tapi ketidaksukaanku itu tidak ada apa apanya dibanding kebencianku terhadapa Juve. I hate juve so much! no..itu kurang tepat, I loathe Juve!! no itu kurang keras juga, I despise Juventus from the bottom of my heart. why?

Here’s Why, masih teringat jelas dibenaku pada akir musim seri A tahun 1998, Inter hampir saja meraih Scudetto yang ditunggu tunggu sejak 1989, but Juventus ruined  it all. Not in a very nice way, karena pada pertandingan penentuan antara Juventus dan Inter, Ronaldo dijegal di kotak penalti, semua orang tahu Inter berhak mendapat penalti penentu kemenangan itu, but for my disbelief, wasit tidak memberikan penalti ke Inter, my heart sank seperti kapal Titanic, slowly, with the cold and pain no one else shall ever bear.

Besoknya aku baca dibeberapa tabloid betapa kuat pengaruh keluarga yang punya Juventus terhadap Asosiasi sepakbola italia (FIGG?) dan tentu saja tekanan itu akan datang ke wasit sehingga keputusan mereka akan jadi tidak obyektif dan cenderuung membela kepentingan Juve. Mungkin mereka adalah seperti mafia keluarga Carliogne dalam film Godfather. sejak saat itu I promise to myself, I’ll dedicate my entire life to hate juve, aku bahkan pernah berpikir, kalau aku jadi Milioner nanti, aku akan beli Juventus dan aku akan tutup club itu untuk pernah berlaga lagi disepakbola, just for the sake to piss off the entire Turin and everyone else who support Juve.

What about MU? masih ingat jelas juga, it was April 1999, beberapa hari sebelum Ebtanasku, aku menginap di rumah TG teman kelasku untuk belajar nyiapain ujian dan paginya bisa nonton siaran langsung MU-Inter di second leg liga Champion merebutkan tiket ke semifinal. semalaman aku ga bisa tidur, aku dan TG (sama* fans Inter) berdiskusi kira kira strategi apa yang akan dipakai Inter, I  actually believed that this time Inter is going to make it, and winning this match would be so sweet melihat lawanya adalah MU, club yang aku ga suka karena posisi dan arogansinya in the first place.

Jam 2.30 pertandingan dimualai, 2X45 menit I held my breath, I couldn’t take my eyes off the screen, adrenalin rush, near nervous breakdown saat hampir kemasukan gol. All hope, all the fantasy, all the dreams have gone in the final wistle, my heart’s broken into pieces, Inter lost to MU, a club I really don’t like and from then on, a club I will always hate forever. sekitar jam 5 pagi, TG dengan motor Suzuki tornadonya nganter aku pulang kerumah yang jaraknya sekitar 3km, sampai depan pintu, aku ga langsung masuk, aku dengar adzan subuh, aku duduk diteras, before I knew it, tears drop from my eyes, semakin lama semakin banyak, aku ga bisa tahan, maybe that was (waktu itu aku umur 17 th) the first tears since my chilhood, my heart was trully broken. aku ingat event beberapa bulan sebelumnya, dimana aku sangat suka sama satu cewe temen sekolahku, tapi dia terus pacaran dengan orang lain, I really liked her at that time. but when she walk away from me, I was dissapointed, but she didn’t break my heart, but MU did.

Kembali ke pertangan Arsenal Juve semalem, it was really like dream come true, bukan hanya karena Arsenal menang dan peluangnya menjadi besar untuk juara, tapi lebih kepada pembalasan sakit hatiku ke Juventus back in 1998. God..it feels good!!


Gunners-Interisti

Kamis, 30 Mar 2006,
Mekarnya Generasi Emas Kedua


            Arsene
Wenger sang raja, Patrick Vieira adalah panglimanya. Peran itulah yang
terlihat saat kedua figur tersebut mendampingi Arsenal menjalani
periode emasnya pada 1996 hingga 2005. Tiga trofi Premiership dan empat
trofi Piala FA berhasil direbut The Gunners bersama dua sosok tersebut.

Kepergian Vieira ke Juventus awal musim lalu diyakini akan
menjadi akhir kejayaan Wenger bersama Arsenal. Musim ini, perkembangan
skuad Arsenal tidak secantik tiga rivalnya di Premiership: Chelsea,
Liverpool, maupun Manchester United. Tubuh The Gunners dinilai terlalu
banyak pemain muda.

l atas Juventus (2-0) dini hari kemarin
menjadi jawaban atas keraguan tersebut. Jika The Gunners melengkapi
suksesnya ke semifinal, pasukan Wenger itu dipastikan bakal membuat
miris rival-rivalnya di Premiership musim depan.

Kalau dilihat
ke belakang, Wenger memang jago melahirkan pemain bintang. Ketika
bergabung Arsenal 1996 silam, kemampuan Wenger diragukan karena terlalu
banyak pemain muda. Namun, Wenger bisa menjawab kritik itu hanya dua
tahun. Dia mampu membuat Arsenal menjelma sebagai kekuatan yang
ditakuti di Premiership. Thierry Henry, Vieira, dan Robert Pires adalah
tiga pemain muda yang menjadi bintang The Gunners saat itu.

Nah,
belajar dari masa lalu, Wenger kini menatap generasi emas kedua
Arsenal. Francesc Fabregas, yang menjadi pahlawan kemenangan The
Gunners, masih baru menginjak 18 tahun. Jose Antonio Reyes juga
memiliki masa depan panjang dengan usia 22 tahun. Lini belakang The
Gunners juga penuh dengan pemain muda. Mathieu Flamini, Philippe
Senderos, dan Emmanuel Eboue masih berusia di bawah 22 tahun. Kolo
Toure genap berusia 25 tahun awal bulan lalu.

Henry, Pires,
dan Gilberto adalah tiga pemain senior yang diturunkan The Gunners.
Mereka mampu memimpin rekan-rekan mudanya dengan baik."Telah lahir tim
baru Arsenal dengan pemain-pemain muda yang hebat, " kata Wenger.

Arsenal
akan segera pindah home base ke Emirates Stadium. Di stadion
berkapasitas 60 ribu itu, bibit-bibit yang ditanam Wenger akan
menemukan media yang lebih baik untuk mekar. Sesuatu yang luar biasa
jika pada akhirnya nanti Fabregas dkk bisa mempersembahkan gelar Liga
Champions. Berikutnya, The Gunners akan kembali menantang Chelsea dan
Manchester United di Premiership musim depan

Mahar: Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?

March 25th, 2006 by foelan

Artikel dari milist tetangga sebelah yang menarik. Disini digambarkan betapa pentingnya mahar itu bukan hanya dilihat dari sisi materi. Tercakup pula bahwa suatu mahar yang diberikan mengandung beberapa makna; sunah, penghargaan kita kepada sang istri, ekspektasi penerima mahar dan pentingnya mahar sebagai simbol cinta.

I quote "Sebaik-baiknya laki-laki adalah yang memberikan mahar yang banyak, dan sebaik-baiknya wanita adalah yang tidak meminta mahar yang banyak". Tentu besar kecilnya mahar harus disesuaikan dengan kemampuan si calon suami, peliknya, sebuah pernikahan itu tidak akan syah kalau si perempuan tidak ridho pada mahar yang berikan. Jadi sebuah mahar bukan hanya menggambarkan seberapa besar apresiasi lelaki terhadapa istri dan institusi perkawinan, tapi juga akan mengejawantahkan rasa cinta dan keiklasan istri untuk menerima suami apa adanya, sweet..

Decision, decision, decision…..what will I get for my wife? Hmmm…I have no idea, one thing I know for sure, I will sell my soul for something pure and true!

Ada cerita tentang pernikahan seorang Mualaf dari Negeri Belanda
(Erik Meijer) dengan seorang artis kita (Maudy Koesnaedi), yang dimuat di
Tabloid Nova tanggal 30 September 2001. Pesta pernikahan yang indah,
sampai-sampai tak sedikit tamu yang berfoto-ria, dengan latar belakang
indah bernuansa Belanda.

Lepas dari segala kekurangan yang mungkin ada dalam acara pernikahan
mereka, ada pelajaran yang menarik yang dapat diambil, yaitu
tentang
MAHAR yang diberikan oleh Tuan Erik Meijer kepada istrinya tercinta. Ia
memberikan mahar berupa uang tunai 23.901 Gulden (sekitar Rp. 96 juta
rupiah) dan seperangkat perhiasan, anting dan kalung emas bertatahkan
berlian. Masya Allah!

Semoga saudara kita, Erik Meijer diberikan ketetapan iman Islam, dan
mampu membangun keluarga yang Islami. Amiin.Sungguh, Tuan Erik Meijer, telah mengikuti sunnah Rasulullah SAW, dengan memberikan MAHAR yang bernilai kepada istrinya.

Muhammad SAW memberika Mahar kepada istrinya Khadijah berupa 100 ekor
unta muda. Coba kita hitung kalau 1 ekor unta muda = 10jt. 100 ekor
unta muda = 1 Milyar. Wow.. fantastis bukan? Mana ada jaman sekarang walaupun kaya raya memberikan mahar semahal
itu?

Muhammad muda sangat menghargai calon istrinya seorang yang mulai dan
terpandang, dengan mahar yang mahal.Ini berbeda dengan kebanyakan
masyarakat kita sekarang ini, yang"Gemar" memberikan mahar berupa "Al-Qur’an dan seperangkat Alat
Sholat".

Saya tidak meragukan, bahwa Al-Qur’an adalah Kitab Suci yang mulia.
Namun saya yakin, bahwa kebanyakan mempelai wanita tentu sudah memiliki
Al-Qur’an & Alat Sholat (jika ia bukan mualaf).

Saya belum pernah membaca kisah para sahabat yang memberikan mahar
sebagaimana Trend yang berkembang di tengah masyarakat kita sekarang
ini. Yang ada adalah di zaman sahabat adalah, jika ia miskin, maka ia
berikan harta yang terbaik yang dimilikinya. Atau jika ia benar-benar
tidak punya harta, maka ia boleh memberikan "Hafalan Al-Qur’an" sebagai
maharnya.

Mari kita renungkan ayat berikut:
Berikanlah maskawin (mahar) kepada wanita (yang kamu nikahi) sebagai
pemberian dengan penuh kerelaan. Kemudian jika mereka menyerahkan
kepada kamu sebagian dari maskawin itu dengan senang hati, maka makanlah
(ambillah)
pemberian itu (sebagai makanan) yang sedap lagi baik
akibatnya. -QS:An-Nisaa’ (4):4

Orang yang mampu menurut kemampuannya dan orang yang miskin menurut
kemampuannya (pula), yaitu pemberian menurut yang patut. Yang demikian
itu merupakan ketentuan bagi orang-orang yang berbuat kebajikan. -
QS:Al-Baqarah(2):236.

Mari kita renung pula kenyataan yang ada di masyarakat. Berapa banyak
pasang suami-istri yang membaca Al-Qur’an setiap hari? Atau berapa
sering sang suami sholat bersama sang istri dengan Perangkat Sholat
yang diberikannya? Al-Qur’an dan Seperangkat Alat Sholat dijadikan simbol kesholehan
saat pernikahan. Namun setelah itu, tak jarang Al-Qur’an hanya disimpan rapi
dalam lemari, jarang disentuh, apalagi dibaca, dihayati dan diamalkan.
Alangkah ironis!
  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Dalam Islam, permintaan dan pemberian MAHAR sangat berbeda dengan
sifat materialis
dan kepalsuan. Ini adalah ajaran Islam yang penuh
hikmah, yang bertujuan untuk melindungi dan memuliakan wanita, serta
memperkokoh keluarga. Sebagaimana kata-kata bijak berikut ini:

"Sebaik-baiknya laki-laki adalah yang memberikan mahar yang banyak, dan
sebaik-baiknya wanita adalah yang tidak meminta mahar yang banyak".

Sang laki-laki berusaha maksimal, sang wanita tak banyak menuntut.
Alangkah indahnya ….Sebagai penutup perlu saya sampaikan, bahwa MAHAR yang tinggi akan
menghambat pernikahan, sebagaimana yang terjadi di beberapa Negara
Teluk Persia sekarang ini. Sampai-sampai pemerintahnya turun tangan
memberikan Subsidi untuk Bujangan yang ingin menikah, agar dapat segera menikah.

Semoga tulisan singkat ini bermanfaat, minimal untuk saudara-saudara
kita yang belum menikah. Dan mohon maaf, kalau ada kata-kata yang
kurang berkenan di hati.

"Dan nikahkanlah orang-orang yang
sedirian diantara kamu, dan
orang-orang yang layak (nikah) dari hamba-hamba sahayamu yang
laki-laki, dan hamba-hamba sahayamu yang perempuan. Jika mereka miskin Allah akan
memampukan mereka dengan kurnia-Nya. Dan Allah Maha luas
(pemberian-Nya)lagi Maha Mengetahui." - QS:An-Nuur (24):32

Festival Film Indonesia di UK

March 4th, 2006 by foelan

Asyik ada kesempatan nih buat nonton film Indonesia, sebagian sih dah nonton tapi aku belum dan pingin lihat Gie, Kuldesak dan daun diatas bantal, ayo rek rame2 nonton! btw, gratis lho plus nanti kalian bisa ketemu ama sutradara dan aktor kembaranku Nicolas Saputra hehehe..

Ini words dari panitia:

LONDON, GLASGOW DAN NOTTINGHAM, Ketiga kota ini akan menjadi saksi bisubagaimana sinema Indonesia akan kembali memperlihatkan potensi dankualitasnya kepada dunia dalam program 1st London Indonesian FilmScreening 2006 with Tour pada tanggal 9 – 15 Maret 2006 yang akandatang.

Film GIE karya sineas muda lulusan Royal Holloway University of London,Riri Riza akan menjadi film pembuka dalam opening night yang akandihadiri langsung oleh Riri Riza sendiri bersama Mira Lesmana danNicholas Saputra yang terlibat sebagai produser dan aktor utama dalamfilm ini.

Festival yang diselenggarakan di kampus universitas ternama Inggris,School of Oriental and African Studies (SOAS) University of London iniakan dibuka secara resmi oleh Duta Besar Republik Indonesia untukKerajaan Inggris Raya dan Republik Irlandia, DR. Marty Natalegawa. Malampembukaan yang akan dihadiri oleh undangan dari kalangan akademisi danindustri perfilman dan media di UK dan komunitas internasional ini akanditutup dengan interaksi dialog secara langsung bersama ketiga tamudalam diskusi bertema Gie, an Oak Tree Standing Against the Wind.

Berturut-turut  kemudian di School of Oriental and African Studies daritanggal 9 Maret sampai dengan 11 Maret 2006 akan akan diputar `JanjiJoni' karya Joko Anwar, `Eliana Eliana' karya Riri Reza,`Kuldesak' karya kolaborasi tiga sutradara; Nan T. Achnas, RizalMantovani dan Riri Reza, `Arisan' karya Nia Dinata, `Daun Diatas Bantal' karya Garin Nugroho, dan `Novel Tanpa Huruf`R'' karya Aria Kusumadewa.

Untuk Kuldesak dan Arisan akan dilengkapi dengan diskusi `Gender andSexuality through the cinema in southeast Asia' secara simultandengan Daun diatas Bantal dan Novel Tanpa Huruf R yang ditutup dengandiskusi 'Contemporary Indonesian Film'. Diskusi ini sendiri akanselain dihadiri Riri Riza dan Nicholas Saputra sebagai pembicara akandilengkapi pembicara dari British Film Institute, akademisi, danpengamat film internasional.

Festival ini dilengkapi dengan tour yang diharapkan dapat mencakupseluruh wilayah di Inggris. Kota Glasgow, Macintosh city di utara, akanmenjadi tempat pertama yang disinggahi film GIE bersama sutradara RiriRiza dan Aktor Nicholas Saputra pada senin sore 13 Maret 2006 jam 5 soredi Gilmorehill G12 Cinema, University of Glasgow.

Kota Nottingham yang selain terkenal sebagai kota Robinhood, tetapi jugamenyimpan potensi kuat dalam perfilman inggris dengan tumbuhnya bioskopindependen akan menjadi persinggahan terakhir yang akan menutupkeseluruhan festival acara ini dengan memutar film GIE di Law and SocialSciences Building B63, University of Nottingham pada hari Rabu tanggal15 Maret 2006 jam 7 sore.

Antusias tentu, rindu terhadap karya bangsa pastinya, bangga sebagaianak Indonesia sudah mutlak.

Jadi masukan dalam agenda kita bersama untuk program akbar ini, specialuntuk kita semua masyarakat Indonesia nantinya akan ada event khususdalam MEET and GREET yang tentunya isinya nonton bareng dan dialogdengan ketiga tamu pada hari minggu nanti tanggal 12 Maret 2005. TungguPengumuman selanjutnya!

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fairy tale does happen but Romeo must die

February 7th, 2006 by foelan

The great thing about fantasy is.. there is this little probability that it might  actually happen, tapi disaat kita pada posisi sadar bahwa apa yang kita impikan itu sudah melewati kita…well, it sucks! but it shouldn’t stop us from dream our dream, because however remote it is from the reality, fairy tale does happen.

It has just occured to me that the actual process between the point where we are dreaming to the dream itself become reality it’s called..life, our life…ironically, most of our dream never turn into reality, but the fact that we have faith that someday, just maybe someday…we will achieve the great fantasies of ours itself that makes our life beuatiful…so beautiful.

Alas, Romeo must die. If we shall leave this life with unfulfilled dream, then it’s allright as we have lived our life to the full and because we did have beautiful dream that kept us going, with unbreakable spirit. From this point, what really matter is the next life, the question is, are we prepared enough for it? I know im not, not yet anyway.

Yeah it’s me..dreamer.

Gusti Allah ora sare

December 31st, 2005 by foelan
Im in rather religious mood today, and hey!…it’s the first day of 2006, hope I’ll stay that way for the rest of the year, amin..happy new year all!

Dari milist tetangga:
GUSTI ALLAH ORA SARE

 
Aku
berdoa agar diberikan kebijaksanaan…Namun, Allah memberikanku masalah
agar aku mampu memecahkannya. Aku berdoa agar diberikan
kecerdasan…Namun, Allah memberikanku otak dan pikiran agar aku dapat
belajar dari-Nya.
….

Malam telah larut saat saya
meninggalkan kantor. Telah lewat pukul 11 malam. Pekerjaan yang
menumpuk, membuat saya harus pulang selarut ini.
Ah, hari yang
menjemukan saat itu. Terlebih, setelah beberapa saat berjalan,warna
langit tampak memerah. Rintik hujan mulai turun. Lengkap sudah, badan
yang lelah ditambah dengan "acara" kehujanan.

Setengah berlari
saya mencari tempat berlindung. Untunglah, penjual nasi goreng yang
mangkal di pojok jalan, mempunyai tenda sederhana. Lumayan, pikir saya.
Segera saya berteduh, menjumpai bapak penjual yang sendirian, ditemani
rokok dan lampu petromak yang masih menyala.

Dia menyilahkan saya duduk. "Disini saja dik, daripada kehujanan…," begitu katanya saat saya meminta ijin berteduh.

Benar
saja, hujan mulai deras, dan kami makin terlihat dalam kesunyian yang
pekat. Karena merasa tak nyaman atas kebaikan bapak penjual dan
tendanya, saya berkata, "tolong bikin mie goreng pak, di makan disini
saja.

Sang Bapak tersenyum, dan mulai menyiapkan tungku
apinya. Dia tampak sibuk. Bumbu dan penggorengan pun telah siap untuk
di racik. Tampaklah pertunjukkan sebuah pengalaman yang tak dapat
diraih dalam waktu sebentar. Tangannya cekatan sekali meraih botol
kecap dan segenap bumbu. Segera
saja, mie goreng yang mengepul
telah terhidang. Keadaan yang semula canggung mulai hilang. Basa-basi
saya bertanya, "Wah hujannya tambah deras nih, orang-orang makin jarang
yang keluar ya Pak?" Bapak itu menoleh kearah saya, dan berkata, "Iya
dik, jadi sepi nih dagangan saya.." katanya sambil menghisap rokok
dalam-dalam.

"Kalau hujan begini, jadi sedikit yang beli ya
Pak?" kata saya, "Wah, rezekinya jadi berkurang dong ya?" Duh.
Pertanyaan yang bodoh. Tentu saja, tak banyak yang membeli kalau hujan
begini. Tentu, pertanyaan itu hanya akan membuat Bapak itu tambah
sedih. Namun, agaknya saya keliru…

"Gusti Allah, ora sare
dik, (Allah itu tidak pernah istirahat), begitu katanya. "Rezeki saya
ada dimana-mana. Saya malah senang kalau hujan begini. Istri sama anak
saya di kampung pasti dapat air buat sawah.
Yah, walaupun nggak
lebar, tapi lumayan lah tanahnya." Bapak itu melanjutkan, "Anak saya
yang disini pasti bisa ngojek payung kalau besok masih hujan…"

Degh. Dduh, hati saya tergetar. Bapak itu benar, "Gusti Allah ora sare".
Allah Memang Maha Kuasa, yang tak pernah istirahat buat hamba-hamba-Nya.
Saya
rupanya telah keliru memaknai hidup. Filsafat hidup yang saya punya,
tampak tak ada artinya di depan perkataan sederhana itu. Makna nya
terlampau dalam, membuat saya banyak berpikir dan menyadari kekerdilan
saya di hadapan Tuhan.

Saya selalu berpikiran, bahwa hujan
adalah bencana, adalah petaka bagi banyak hal. Saya selalu berpendapat,
bahwa rezeki itu selalu berupa materi, dan hal nyata yang bisa
digenggam dan dirasakan. Dan saya juga berpendapat, bahwa saat ada
ujian yang menimpa, maka itu artinya saya cuma harus
bersabar.
Namun saya keliru. Hujan, memang bisa menjadi bencana, namun rintiknya
bisa menjadi anugerah bagi setiap petani. Derasnya juga adalah berkah
bagi sawah-sawah yang perlu diairi. Derai hujan mungkin bisa menjadi
petaka, namun derai itu pula yang menjadi harapan bagi sebagian
orang yang mengojek payung, atau mendorong mobil yang mogok.

Hmm…saya
makin bergegas untuk menyelesaikan mie goreng itu. Beribu pikiran
tampak seperti lintasan-lintasan cahaya yang bergerak di benak saya.
"Ya Allah, Engkau Memang Maha yang Tak Pernah Beristirahat"
Untunglah,hujan
telah reda, dan sayapun telah selesai makan. Dalam perjalanan pulang,
hanya kata itu yang teringat, Gusti Allah Ora Sare….. Gusti Allah Ora
Sare…..

Begitulah, saya sering takjub pada hal-hal kecil yang ada di depan saya.
Allah
memang selalu punya banyak rahasia, dan mengingatkan kita dengan cara
yang tak terduga. Selalu saja, Dia memberikan Cinta kepada saya lewat
hal-hal yang sederhana. Dan hal-hal itu, kerap membuat saya menjadi
semakin banyak belajar.

Dulu, saya berharap, bisa melewati
tahun ini dengan hal-hal besar, dengan sesuatu yang istimewa. Saya
sering berharap, saat saya bertambah usia, harus ada hal besar yang
saya lampaui. Seperti tahun sebelumnya, saya ingin ada hal yang
menakjubkan saya lakukan.

Namun, rupanya tahun ini Allah punya
rencana lain buat saya. Dalam setiap doa saya, sering terucap agar saya
selalu dapat belajar dan memaknai hikmah kehidupan. Dan kali ini Allah
pun tetap memberikan saya yang terbaik. Saya tetap belajar, dan terus
belajar, walaupun bukan dengan hal-hal besar n istimewa. Aku berdoa
agar diberikan kekuatan…Namun, Allah memberikanku cobaan agar aku
kuat menghadapinya.

Aku berdoa agar diberikan
kebijaksanaan…Namun, Allah memberikanku masalah agar aku mampu
memecahkannya. Aku berdoa agar diberikan kecerdasan…Namun, Allah
memberikanku otak dan pikiran agar aku dapat belajar dari-Nya.

Aku
berdoa agar diberikan keberanian…Namun, Allah memberikanku marabahaya
agar aku mampu menghadapinya. Aku berdoa agar diberikan cinta dan kasih
sayang…Namun, Allah memberikanku orang-orang yang luka hatinya agar
aku dapat berbagi dengannya. Aku berdoa agar diberikan
kebahagiaan…Namun, Allah memberikanku pintu kesempatan agar aku dapat
memanfaatkannya.

The science of love: It’s all about chemistry

December 30th, 2005 by foelan

Please..do explain love at your peril! ga peduli how hard you try, love ain’t that simple, it has never been and it won’t ever be. This paper however, very interesting as it is unussually try to explain love from the perspective of science, a truly educating read. baca..en dijamin kalian akan manggut manggut sambil garuk garuk kepala, and mungkin angkat topi buat penulisnya. anyone suka kimia?

The science of love

I get a kick out of you

Scientists are finding that, after all, love really is down to a chemical addiction between people

OVER the course of history it has been artists, poets and
playwrights who have made the greatest progress in humanity’s
understanding of love. Romance has seemed as inexplicable as the beauty
of a rainbow. But these days scientists are challenging that notion,
and they have rather a lot to say about how and why people love each
other.

   

 

Is this useful? The scientists think so. For a start, understanding
the neurochemical pathways that regulate social attachments may help to
deal with defects in people’s ability to form relationships. All
relationships, whether they are those of parents with their children,
spouses with their partners, or workers with their colleagues, rely on
an ability to create and maintain social ties. Defects can be
disabling, and become apparent as disorders such as autism and
schizophrenia—and, indeed, as the serious depression that can result
from rejection in love. Research is also shedding light on some of the
more extreme forms of sexual behaviour. And, controversially, some
utopian fringe groups see such work as the doorway to a future where
love is guaranteed because it will be provided chemically, or even
genetically engineered from conception.

ocument.write(’\'The scientific tale of love begins innocently enough, with voles.
The prairie vole is a sociable creature, one of the only 3% of mammal
species that appear to form monogamous relationships. Mating between
prairie voles is a tremendous 24-hour effort. After this, they bond for
life. They prefer to spend time with each other, groom each other for
hours on end and nest together. They avoid meeting other potential
mates. The male becomes an aggressive guard of the female. And when
their pups are born, they become affectionate and attentive parents.
However, another vole, a close relative called the montane vole, has no
interest in partnership beyond one-night-stand sex. What is intriguing
is that these vast differences in behaviour are the result of a mere
handful of genes. The two vole species are more than 99% alike,
genetically.

Why do voles fall in love?

The details of what is going on—the vole story, as it were—is a
fascinating one. When prairie voles have sex, two hormones called
oxytocin and vasopressin are released. If the release of these hormones
is blocked, prairie-voles’ sex becomes a fleeting affair, like that
normally enjoyed by their rakish montane cousins. Conversely, if
prairie voles are given an injection of the hormones, but prevented
from having sex, they will still form a preference for their chosen
partner. In other words, researchers can make prairie voles fall in
love—or whatever the vole equivalent of this is—with an injection.

A clue to what is happening—and how these results might bear on the
human condition—was found when this magic juice was given to the
montane vole: it made no difference. It turns out that the faithful
prairie vole has receptors for oxytocin and vasopressin in brain
regions associated with reward and reinforcement, whereas the montane
vole does not. The question is, do humans (another species in the 3% of
allegedly monogamous mammals) have brains similar to prairie voles?

To answer that question you need to dig a little deeper. As Larry
Young, a researcher into social attachment at Emory University, in
Atlanta, Georgia, explains, the brain has a reward system designed to
make voles (and people and other animals) do what they ought to.
Without it, they might forget to eat, drink and have sex—with
disastrous results. That animals continue to do these things is because
they make them feel good. And they feel good because of the release of
a chemical called dopamine into the brain. Sure enough, when a female
prairie vole mates, there is a 50% increase in the level of dopamine in
the reward centre of her brain.

Similarly, when a male rat has sex it feels good to him because of
the dopamine. He learns that sex is enjoyable, and seeks out more of it
based on how it happened the first time. But, in contrast to the
prairie vole, at no time do rats learn to associate sex with a
particular female. Rats are not monogamous.

This is where the vasopressin and oxytocin come in. They are
involved in parts of the brain that help to pick out the salient
features used to identify individuals. If the gene for oxytocin is
knocked out of a mouse before birth, that mouse will become a social
amnesiac and have no memory of the other mice it meets. The same is
true if the vasopressin gene is knocked out.

The salient feature in this case is odour. Rats, mice and voles
recognise each other by smell. Christie Fowler and her colleagues at
Florida State University have found that exposure to the opposite sex
generates new nerve cells in the brains of prairie voles—in particular
in areas important to olfactory memory. Could it be that prairie voles
form an olfactory “image” of their partners—the rodent equivalent of
remembering a personality—and this becomes linked with pleasure?

Dr Young and his colleagues suggest this idea in an article published last month in the Journal of Comparative Neurology.
They argue that prairie voles become addicted to each other through a
process of sexual imprinting mediated by odour. Furthermore, they
suggest that the reward mechanism involved in this addiction has
probably evolved in a similar way in other monogamous animals, humans
included, to regulate pair-bonding in them as well.

You might as well face it…

Sex stimulates the release of vasopressin and oxytocin in people, as
well as voles, though the role of these hormones in the human brain is
not yet well understood. But while it is unlikely that people have a
mental, smell-based map of their partners in the way that voles do,
there are strong hints that the hormone pair have something to reveal
about the nature of human love: among those of Man’s fellow primates
that have been studied, monogamous marmosets have higher levels of
vasopressin bound in the reward centres of their brains than do
non-monogamous rhesus macaques.

Other approaches are also shedding light on the question. In 2000,
Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki of University College, London, located
the areas of the brain activated by romantic love. They took students
who said they were madly in love, put them into a brain scanner, and
looked at their patterns of brain activity.

The results were surprising. For a start, a relatively small area of
the human brain is active in love, compared with that involved in, say,
ordinary friendship. “It is fascinating to reflect”, the pair conclude,
“that the face that launched a thousand ships should have done so
through such a limited expanse of cortex.” The second surprise was that
the brain areas active in love are different from the areas activated
in other emotional states, such as fear and anger. Parts of the brain
that are love-bitten include the one responsible for gut feelings, and
the ones which generate the euphoria induced by drugs such as cocaine.
So the brains of people deeply in love do not look like those of people
experiencing strong emotions, but instead like those of people snorting
coke. Love, in other words, uses the neural mechanisms that are
activated during the process of addiction. “We are literally addicted
to love,” Dr Young observes. Like the prairie voles.

It seems possible, then, that animals which form strong social bonds
do so because of the location of their receptors for vasopressin and
oxytocin. Evolution acts on the distribution of these receptors to
generate social or non-social versions of a vole. The more receptors
located in regions associated with reward, the more rewarding social
interactions become. Social groups, and society itself, rely ultimately
on these receptors. But for evolution to be able to act, there must be
individual variation between mice, and between men. And this has
interesting implications.

Last year, Steven Phelps, who works at Emory with Dr Young, found
great diversity in the distribution of vasopressin receptors between
individual prairie voles. He suggests that this variation contributes
to individual differences in social behaviour—in other words, some
voles will be more faithful than others. Meanwhile, Dr Young says that
he and his colleagues have found a lot of variation in the
vasopressin-receptor gene in humans. “We may be able to do things like
look at their gene sequence, look at their promoter sequence, to
genotype people and correlate that with their fidelity,” he muses.

It has already proved possible to tinker with this genetic
inheritance, with startling results. Scientists can increase the
expression of the relevant receptors in prairie voles, and thus
strengthen the animals’ ability to attach to partners. And in 1999, Dr
Young led a team that took the prairie-vole receptor gene and inserted
it into an ordinary (and therefore promiscuous) mouse. The transgenic
mouse thus created was much more sociable to its mate.

Love, love me do

Scanning the brains of people in love is also helping to refine
science’s grasp of love’s various forms. Helen Fisher, a researcher at
Rutgers University, and the author of a new book on love*,
suggests it comes in three flavours: lust, romantic love and long-term
attachment. There is some overlap but, in essence, these are separate
phenomena, with their own emotional and motivational systems, and
accompanying chemicals. These systems have evolved to enable,
respectively, mating, pair-bonding and parenting.

Lust, of course, involves a craving for sex. Jim Pfaus, a
psychologist at Concordia University, in Montreal, says the aftermath
of lustful sex is similar to the state induced by taking opiates. A
heady mix of chemical changes occurs, including increases in the levels
of serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin and endogenous opioids (the body’s
natural equivalent of heroin). “This may serve many functions, to relax
the body, induce pleasure and satiety, and perhaps induce bonding to
the very features that one has just experienced all this with”, says Dr
Pfaus.

Then there is attraction, or the state of being in love (what is
sometimes known as romantic or obsessive love). This is a refinement of
mere lust that allows people to home in on a particular mate. This
state is characterised by feelings of exhilaration, and intrusive,
obsessive thoughts about the object of one’s affection. Some
researchers suggest this mental state might share neurochemical
characteristics with the manic phase of manic depression. Dr Fisher’s
work, however, suggests that the actual behavioural patterns of those
in love—such as attempting to evoke reciprocal responses in one’s loved
one—resemble obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).

That raises the question of whether it is possible to “treat” this romantic state clinically, as can be done with OCD.
The parents of any love-besotted teenager might want to know the answer
to that. Dr Fisher suggests it might, indeed, be possible to inhibit
feelings of romantic love, but only at its early stages. OCD is
characterised by low levels of a chemical called serotonin. Drugs such
as Prozac work by keeping serotonin hanging around in the brain for
longer than normal, so they might stave off romantic feelings. (This
also means that people taking anti-depressants may be jeopardising
their ability to fall in love.) But once romantic love begins in
earnest, it is one of the strongest drives on Earth. Dr Fisher says it
seems to be more powerful than hunger. A little serotonin would be
unlikely to stifle it.

Wonderful though it is, romantic love is unstable—not a good basis
for child-rearing. But the final stage of love, long-term attachment,
allows parents to co-operate in raising children. This state, says Dr
Fisher, is characterised by feelings of calm, security, social comfort
and emotional union.

Because they are independent, these three systems can work
simultaneously—with dangerous results. As Dr Fisher explains, “you can
feel deep attachment for a long-term spouse, while you feel romantic
love for someone else, while you feel the sex drive in situations
unrelated to either partner.” This independence means it is possible to
love more than one person at a time, a situation that leads to
jealousy, adultery and divorce—though also to the possibilities of
promiscuity and polygamy, with the likelihood of extra children, and
thus a bigger stake in the genetic future, that those behaviours bring.
As Dr Fisher observes, “We were not built to be happy but to reproduce.”

The stages of love vary somewhat between the sexes. Lust, for
example, is aroused more easily in men by visual stimuli than is the
case for women. This is probably why visual pornography is more popular
with men. And although both men and women express romantic love with
the same intensity, and are attracted to partners who are dependable,
kind, healthy, smart and educated, there are some notable differences
in their choices. Men are more attracted to youth and beauty, while
women are more attracted to money, education and position. When an
older, ugly man is seen walking down the road arm-in-arm with a young
and beautiful woman, most people assume the man is rich or powerful.

These foolish things

Of course, love is about more than just genes. Cultural and social
factors, and learning, play big roles. Who and how a person has loved
in the past are important determinants of his (or her) capacity to fall
in love at any given moment in the future. This is because
animals—people included—learn from their sexual and social experiences.
Arousal comes naturally. But long-term success in mating requires a
change from being naive about this state to knowing the precise factors
that lead from arousal to the rewards of sex, love and attachment. For
some humans, this may involve flowers, chocolate and sweet words. But
these things are learnt.

If humans become conditioned by their experiences, this may be the
reason why some people tend to date the same “type” of partner over and
over again. Researchers think humans develop a “love map” as they grow
up—a blueprint that contains the many things that they have learnt are
attractive. This inner scorecard is something that people use to rate
the suitability of mates. Yet the idea that humans are actually born
with a particular type of “soul mate” wired into their desires is
wrong. Research on the choices of partner made by identical twins
suggests that the development of love maps takes time, and has a strong
random component.

Work on rats is leading researchers such as Dr Pfaus to wonder
whether the template of features found attractive by an individual is
formed during a critical period of sexual-behaviour development. He
says that even in animals that are not supposed to pair-bond, such as
rats, these features may get fixed with the experience of sexual
reward. Rats can be conditioned to prefer particular types of
partner—for example by pairing sexual reward with some kind of cue,
such as lemon-scented members of the opposite sex. This work may help
the understanding of unusual sexual preferences. Human fetishes, for
example, develop early, and are almost impossible to change. The
fetishist connects objects such as feet, shoes, stuffed toys and even
balloons, that have a visual association with childhood sexual
experiences, to sexual gratification.

So love, in all its glory, is just, it seems, a chemical state with
genetic roots and environmental influences. But all this work leads to
other questions. If scientists can make a more sociable mouse, might it
be possible to create a more sociable human? And what about a more
loving one? A few people even think that “paradise-engineering”,
dedicated to abolishing the “biological substrates of human suffering”,
is rather a good idea.

As time goes by

Progress in predicting the outcome of relationships, and information
about the genetic roots of fidelity, might also make proposing marriage
more like a job application—with associated medical, genetic and
psychological checks. If it were reliable enough, would insurers cover
you for divorce? And as brain scanners become cheaper and more widely
available, they might go from being research tools to something that
anyone could use to find out how well they were loved. Will the future
bring answers to questions such as: Does your partner really love you? Is your husband lusting after the au pair?

And then there are drugs. Despite Dr Fisher’s reservations, might
they also help people to fall in love, or perhaps fix broken
relationships? Probably not. Dr Pfaus says that drugs may enhance
portions of the “love experience” but fall short of doing the whole job
because of their specificity. And if a couple fall out of love, drugs
are unlikely to help either. Dr Fisher does not believe that the brain
could overlook distaste for someone—even if a couple in trouble could
inject themselves with huge amounts of dopamine.

However, she does think that administering serotonin can help
someone get over a bad love affair faster. She also suggests it is
possible to trick the brain into feeling romantic love in a long-term
relationship by doing novel things with your partner. Any arousing
activity drives up the level of dopamine and can therefore trigger
feelings of romance as a side effect. This is why holidays can rekindle
passion. Romantics, of course, have always known that love is a special
sort of chemistry. Scientists are now beginning to show how true this
is.

* “Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love”, by Helen Fisher. Henry Holt and Company, New York.

The mountain man and the surgeon

December 24th, 2005 by foelan

Ini sebuah artikel menarik tentang cerita 2 orang laki laki; seorang penganguran di amerika dan seorang dokter di afrika, artikel ini mempelajari standard hidup kedua orang ini, membandingkanya, dan mempelajari attitude mereka tentang apa yang mereka punya.

Moral point yang bisa diambil dari artikel ini adalah supaya kita lebih menghargai apa yang kita punya tanpa selalu mengeluh, dan kalau kamu muslim, bersyukurlah, karena walaupun kita tidak selalu bisa dapet apa yang kita yang kita inginkan, banayak orang yang lebih tidak beruntung dari kita, jauh lebih tidak beruntung.

Anyway, it’s the end of the year, time to reflect!! come on people! don’t be boring…read this artikle and you might learn something. enjoy!

Favourite  quote: Mr Banks, for his part, expresses an intense dislike of President
George Bush. “If someone shoots that sonofabitch, I’ll celebrate,” he
says.

The mountain man and the surgeon

Reflections on relative poverty in North America and Africa

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ENOS BANKS tells a cracking yarn about ketchup. One day, he spilled
a splurge of it on his shirt. For fun, he persuaded his brother in law
to shout angrily and shoot through the window. When their two wives
came rushing in, they saw Mr Banks lying there covered in what looked
like blood. “My wife passed out,” chuckles Mr Banks, “and my
brother-in-law’s wife shook him till his [false] teeth rattled.”

Mr Banks lives in a trailer in eastern Kentucky, amid the
majestically forested Appalachian mountains. He is in his early 60s and
has no job—he used to work as a driver for a coal-mining firm, but left
after a heart attack 25 years ago. He wears a cowboy hat and talks with
an accent that outsiders find nearly impenetrable. He is clever with
his hands. When the price of petrol soared this year, he grafted a
chainsaw engine onto a bicycle to make a moped.

When Americans hear the words “poor” and “white”, they think of
someone like Mr Banks. He has half a dozen cars in varying states of
disrepair parked outside his trailer, car-parts everywhere and a pile
of crushed Pepsi cans below his porch.

He “draws” $521 a month in supplemental security income (a form of
cash assistance for the elderly, poor and disabled). He laments that
the authorities deduct $67 a month because he won $3,600 on the slot
machines. Why, he asks, won’t they take account of all the money he has
lost gambling? It is a fair question. If middle-class America had this
problem, accountants would surely find a way round it. Mr Banks also
complains that he cannot draw food stamps. In order to qualify, he
would have to sell his truck, which he cannot bear to part with. Mr
Banks would probably be surprised to hear that, thousands of miles away
in central Africa, there lives a prominent surgeon whose monthly income
is roughly the same as his. Mbwebwe Kabamba is the head of the
emergency department at the main public hospital in Kinshasa, the
capital of the Democratic Republic of Congo. After 28 years as a
doctor, his salary is only $250 a month, but by operating on private
patients after hours, he ekes it out to $600 or $700.

Given the lower cost of living in Congo, one might guess that Dr
Kabamba is better off than Mr Banks. But the doctor has to support an
extended family of 12, whereas Mr Banks’s ex-wife and three sons claim
public assistance. Indeed, the reason Mr Banks split up from his wife,
he says, is because they can draw more benefits separately. She still
lives in the trailer next door.

Why juxtapose the lives of a poor man in a rich country and a
relatively well-off man in a poor one? The exercise is useful for two
reasons. First, it puts the rich world’s wealth into context. A
Congolese doctor, a man most other Congolese would consider wealthy, is
worse off materially than most poor people in America. That, in itself,
is striking.

The second purpose of the exercise is to shed light on some ticklish
questions. What is the relationship between wealth and happiness? And
what is the significance of relative poverty? Mr Banks makes $521 a
month in a country where median male earnings are $3,400 a month. Dr
Kabamba earns $600 a month in a country where most people grow their
own food and hardly ever see a bank note. The two men’s experiences
could hardly be less similar. But which of the two would one expect to
be happier?

Before trying to grapple with these questions, take a look at the
places where the two men live. Eastern Kentucky was where President
Lyndon Johnson stood by a shack in 1964 to launch a “national war on
poverty”. Since then, Appalachia has had tons of government cash and
seen real improvements in living standards, but it retains large and
stubborn pockets of distress. Mr Banks lives in one. His trailer stands
in a hollow near a disused coal mine in Perry county, where the
official poverty rate is 24.5%.

The region is poor partly because it is remote. Steep slopes and
heavy rain can make it hard to get around. Julie Zimmerman, a professor
of sociology at the University of Kentucky, notes that Appalachian folk
sometimes make appointments with the proviso that “I’ll be there, God
willing and the creek don’t rise.”

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Another problem is that the region’s mineral wealth has corrupted
local politics. For decades, argues Mil Duncan, another of the many
sociologists to have pondered Appalachian poverty, coal bosses exerted
an unhealthy influence, and politicians won support through patronage.
The 13 coal-producing counties of eastern Kentucky have consistently
worse poverty than the others, notes Justin Maxson, director of the
Mountain Association for Community Economic Development, a local
microfinance group. “Corruption by public officials has been a
significant contributor to poverty in the region,” he adds.

Congo is also remote, and its politics have also been corrupted by
mineral wealth. But corruption in Kentucky consists of mining firms
leaning on local officials to go easy on environmental regulations, or
school boards appointing their members’ relatives to sinecures. In
Congo, it means half a dozen armies and dozens of militia groups
fighting over the country’s gold and diamond mines between 1998 and
2003, leaving perhaps 3m dead.

Sporadic fighting continues in the east of the country, but this
does not directly affect Dr Kabamba, who lives in the west. Still, the
soldiers in Kinshasa, where he works, are a menace, because they rob
civilians to supplement their wages. Dr Kabamba is shaken down about
twice a month by men in uniform.

Dr Kabamba’s hospital is healthier than it was during the war, or
under Mobutu Sese Seko, the leopardskin-hatted crook who ruled Congo
until his overthrow in 1997. There are no medicines unless patients can
pay for them, and many of the sick lie huddled on the ground. But it
used to be worse. In the early 1990s, patients who could not pay were
sometimes held hostage for weeks until their families found cash to
free them.

Dr Kabamba’s income fluctuates with his country’s fortunes. His
$250-a-month salary is a fivefold increase from last year, and the fact
that it is paid only two months in arrears is an improvement too. The
cause of his good fortune is that Congo was given a huge debt write-off
when the civil war ended in 2003, so there is more money around. What
do Dr Kabamba’s wages buy? He has a four-bedroom house with a kitchen
and living room, which would be ample if there weren’t 12 people under
his roof. His home would be deemed unacceptably overcrowded in America.
Even among the 37m Americans officially classed as poor, only 6% live
in homes with more occupants than rooms.

Having seen how doctors live elsewhere, Dr Kabamba would quite like
running water and a regular power supply. His family fetches water in
jars and the electricity comes on maybe twice a week. Air-conditioning
would be nice, but “that’s only for VIPs,” says Dr Kabamba. In America, three-quarters of poor households have air-conditioning.

Dr Kabamba earns enough to feed his children, but not as well as he
would like. The family eats meat about twice a month; Dr Kabamba calls
it “a great luxury”. In America, poor children eat more meat than the
well-to-do. In fact, they get twice as much protein as their government
says is good for them, which is why the Wal-Mart near Mr Banks sells
such enormous jeans.

“Poverty” describes two quite different phenomena: utter penury, of
the sort experienced by the billion or so souls who subsist on $1 a day
or less; and the situation of people in rich countries who are less
well off than their compatriots.

For the first group, finding enough to eat is a daily struggle, and
a $2-a-day job hand-washing mineral ore in a river is a lucky break.
Shortly before meeting Dr Kabamba, your correspondent interviewed a
group of Congolese ore-washers who were delighted to have found such
lucrative work.

European countries tend to use relative measures of poverty. A
household with an income less than 50% or 60% of the national median
counts as poor. This has the perverse result that if the country gets
richer, the poverty rate can still rise, as long as incomes at the top
and in the middle rise faster than those at the bottom.

America, more sensibly, uses an absolute standard. The “poverty
threshold”, created in the mid-1960s, was based on an estimate of how
much an adequate diet might cost, multiplied by three. This figure is
adjusted for inflation each year, but is otherwise unchanged. So the
fact that, according to the Census Bureau, the share of Americans in
poverty rose between 1974 and 2004, from 11.2% to 12.7%, ought to be a
cause for shame.

But it is not, because American poverty statistics are misleading.
For one thing, the poor rarely stay that way. In 1996-99, only 2% of
Americans were poor every month over the full four-year period. And
life appears, by most measures, to have improved. Poor people today
live longer, spend longer in education and are more likely to have
jobs. Fewer live in substandard houses, more have cars, fridges,
boomboxes and other necessities that were luxuries a couple of
generations ago.

How, then, to account for the apparent rise in poverty? It is partly
a matter of definition. Some non-cash benefits, such as food stamps,
housing assistance and Medicaid, are excluded from the calculation. And
the raw data must be wrong. Nicholas Eberstadt of the American
Enterprise Institute, a conservative think-tank, notes that while
reported annual income for the poorest fifth of households in 2003 was
$8,201, their reported expenditure was $18,492. Nobody can explain this
vast discrepancy.

All one can say is that whereas the poor in Kinshasa complain about
the price of bread, the poor in Kentucky complain about the price of
motor insurance. Fair enough—they need to drive to work.

Granted, the poor in America do not starve. But their relative
poverty can hurt in other ways. To be poor in a meritocracy implies
failure. Eastern Kentucky is one of America’s least meritocratic
enclaves, but failure still carries a stigma. Though few Americans say
that the poor have only themselves to blame, many believe it. Many of
the poor believe it, too.

For a Congolese peasant, there is no shame in living in a hut made
of sticks. Everyone you know does too. In America, by contrast, the
term “trailer” denotes more than a mobile home, and the people who live
in one know it. They are also acutely aware of how richer folk live,
because they watch so much television. A typical poor household in
America has two televisions, cable or satellite reception and a VCR or a DVD player.

Dr Kabamba, though hard up, enjoys the respect that doctors receive
in all societies. Perhaps more, for people can see that he does an
essential job under the toughest of conditions. That his hospital still
functions despite years of war, corruption, economic decline and the
occasional “grand pillage” by unpaid soldiers is, he sighs,
“almost a miracle”. His compatriots might add that it is almost a
miracle that Dr Kabamba, whose skills would allow him to emigrate, has
chosen not to.

Those who know Dr Kabamba treat him with deference. When your
correspondent was detained by the police outside his hospital, for the
crime of appearing to possess a wallet, one telephone call to the
doctor was enough to fix the problem. The officers even apologised.

Mr Banks, by contrast, though outwardly cheery, has no illusions
about how other Americans see people like himself. Of the officials who
hand him his monthly cheque, he says: “Some are okay, but some act like
the money’s coming out of their own pockets.” His great-niece, Rosie
Woolum, tells a story about growing up in the hollows. She was the girl
on the school cheerleading team who could not afford shoes. A teacher
who lived nearby could have offered her a lift home after practice, she
says, but never did. So she had to wait a couple of hours for her
mother. At the time, she did not understand why her better-off
neighbours shunned her. Now that she has a good job (running a project
that provides health care for the homeless), she finds they no longer
do.

It is hard to guage the pain of relative poverty because no one
knows how to measure happiness. Simply asking people “Are you happy?”
only gets you so far. The answers people give depend in part on
cultural factors. Few English or Japanese will offer anything more
ecstatic than a “mustn’t grumble”, but that does not necessarily mean
they are glummer than say, Americans, 86% of whom told Gallup this year
that they were “completely” or “somewhat satisfied” with their jobs.

Indirect evidence of unhappiness is equally hard to gather, since so
many potential proxies, such as drug abuse and wife-beating, are hushed
up. Nonetheless, for what it is worth, when your correspondent asked Ms
Woolum and three of her local social-worker colleagues to share their
life stories, those stories shared a common thread.

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All four women had been beaten by husbands or boyfriends, most of
whom had problems with drink or drugs. One recalls being knelt on so
that her arms were pinned to the floor and punched repeatedly in the
face. Another says she was stabbed. Without excusing the abuse, the
women assume that it had something to do with their menfolk’s sense of
frustration at the poor hand life had dealt them. As the last of the
quartet puts it: “He wasn’t happy. We got hit.”

Happily, all four have escaped their abusers. Ms Woolum reckons that
the welfare reforms of the 1990s have, indirectly, made local women
more assertive. “Welfare is more demanding. [To receive it], women have
to get out and work, so we’re getting out into a different
environment.” This, she argues, fosters self-reliance and self-respect,
so “Women don’t take it as much now.”

The personal is political

Both Dr Kabamba and Mr Banks feel bitter about the state of politics
in their respective countries. Dr Kabamba resents the fact that Congo
is run by a mob of unelected thieves and warlords, who for the most
part only pretend to care about good governance so they can continue
milking western donors. The country was promised an election by June
this year, but the ruling class somehow never got around to organising
it. They now promise to have one next year—they held a constitutional
referendum this month—but Dr Kabamba is not holding his breath. He
takes such a dim view of the probity of Congolese politicians that he
once turned down a job in the cabinet. In his spare time, he is the
leader of one of Congo’s many opposition parties, but no one is tipping
him to be the next president. He is neither rich nor ruthless enough.

Mr Banks, for his part, expresses an intense dislike of President
George Bush. “If someone shoots that sonofabitch, I’ll celebrate,” he
says. Some of his complaints echo those of the coastal
intelligentsia—he thinks the president should create more manufacturing
jobs, for example. But some of his gripes are of the sort rarely aired
in the New York Times.

For example, he berates Mr Bush for allowing too many foreign
doctors into the country. In eastern Kentucky, as in Congo, those with
marketable skills often leave as soon as they graduate. Unlike Congo,
however, Kentucky can attract doctors from poorer parts of the world,
such as South Asia. Mr Banks does not think much of these immigrant
medics. He fears they may give him the wrong medicine, perhaps
deliberately, and threatens to “shoot them plumb between the eyes” if
they try. He is not serious about this threat, one assumes, but his
sense of grievance is no less real for being incoherent.

The point of this article is neither to mock Mr Banks nor to praise
Dr Kabamba. Both have their virtues and flaws, and your correspondent
cannot reliably judge which is the happier. But here are two concluding
observations. First, if poor Americans were to compare their standard
of living with what is normal elsewhere in the world, let alone in
Congo, they would see they have little cause for discontent. Then
again, were Americans not so incurably discontented with their lot,
their great country would not be half as dynamic as it is.